Your past errors are dug up frequently: When a partner resorts to citing examples like ‘This is what you always do. Last month also…’ or ‘You were like this with your ex too’, you know your relationship may be treading dangerous ground. Dr Chhabria says, “When a partner is insecure, he/she may be making a case history against you on a sub-conscious level. Anything that happens, he/she immediately recollects the past examples and keeps mentioning them. He/she doesn’t concentrate on nor tries to solve the issue at hand.” Ghosts of the past usually torment this kind of person, making life difficult for you too.